Building Post-Divorce Communication Patterns for Husbands and Wives Based on Islamic Educational Principles

Abstract

Divorce, while permissible in Islam, presents significant emotional and social challenges for former spouses, particularly in maintaining effective communication for co-parenting and community harmony. This study develops a comprehensive framework for post-divorce communication patterns grounded in Islamic educational principles, emphasizing values such as sabr (patience), adab (etiquette), ihsan (excellence), and amanah (trustworthiness). Drawing on Qur’anic teachings, prophetic traditions, and contemporary Islamic educational practices, the research integrates these principles with modern communication strategies to foster constructive dialogue and minimize conflict. The methodology combines qualitative textual analysis of Islamic sources, in-depth interviews with 20 divorced Muslim couples in Indonesia, and case studies from two Islamic educational institutions (a pesantren in Medan and a madrasah in Jakarta). The findings reveal that communication rooted in Islamic values significantly improves post-divorce relationships, particularly in co-parenting scenarios, by promoting mutual respect and emotional resilience. This study contributes to the discourse on family dynamics in Muslim contexts, offering practical recommendations for educators, counselors, and policymakers to support divorced couples in maintaining healthy communication.